September 6th, 2016 | Mandi Mitchell
Is it me or are kids these days lacking some core values like respect, humility and manners?
People are real quick to blame the parents for such little discipline, and I’m not denying that parenting has gone soft, we have the mothers of America to thank for that, but there are other things that play a huge part in shaping our children and their behaviors. School, society, media, peers, different views from the last generation, just to name a few. It isn’t just the parents, but society as a whole, that is responsible for giving kids this undeserved sense of entitlement and for the wussification of today’s generation.
Everyone gets a trophy, even if you lose. Bullying is out of control because you can longer stand up for yourself. Self esteem is lower than ever. You can’t yell at your children when they’re acting like brats because that’s now frowned upon. Instead, you now get told to calmly talk to kids and explain your feelings and have them express theirs.
Um, excuse me? Who the hell is giving this advice? Clearly someone who has never dealt with a temper tantrum. Trying to calmly talk to kids to express feelings? Granted, sometimes, depending on the child, this might work but for the most part, Psh! Talking to a 5 year old who’s throwing a tantrum in the middle of the store because he needs to have the cereal that he hates solely because there’s a damn .02 cent toy in the box, is about as successful as dipping yourself in honey to get a hug from a grizzly.
I don’t know if I’m making sense anymore, and I got a little off topic. For that, I apologize. My point is, with everything working against us as parents nowadays we need to try even harder to instill values and morals in our children. It’s something we must do to set them up for success in the future. If we teach them early on, and we are persistent with it, doing what’s right may come more naturally to them later on.
We all love our kids more than anything in this world, and we all want what’s best for them, but we really need to prepare our children for the world, not the world for our children. Life doesn’t work that way. Instilling core values WILL help our children which in turns helps future generations.
So, what values should we be teaching our kids? Which morals are important? I made a list of what I think is imperative and what I try to drill into my kids heads on a daily basis.
I really don’t think that any of these need to be explained for the simple fact we should know why all these traits are so damn important but I will go into some detail about a few of the ‘unusual’ ones on my list by quoting some, for a good reason, famous quotes.
Manners. Teaching manners is one of the easiest things to do. While it may not seem like manners are of the utmost importance, we all know you attract more bees with honey than you do with vinegar. The more you remind you’re kids to say ‘please,’ ‘thank you,’ ‘you’re welcome,’ manners will come more naturally. It’s something lacking in today’s generation.
Humility. This tends to get overlooked, but it’s a value that really should be considered. Not being boastful, knowing when to say sorry and admitting when you’re wrong are things to be admired. No one likes an arrogant ass. “Pride is concerned with WHO is right, while humility is concerned with WHAT is right.” Remember, have more than you show and talk less than you know.
Confidence. Okay, so this may not have made the list for the generations before us but in todays society, kids are downright fucking mean. Bullying is at an all time high. Self-esteem is plummeting. I always tell my kids not to care what others think or not to be offended by others cruel words. We all know the cliché sayings; ‘sticks and stones can break my bones…’ ‘you can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world…’
Compassion. Everyone is fighting a battle. Everyone struggles. Don’t be a jerk, plain and simple. “Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, the human race cannot survive.” – Dalai Lama
Perseverance. This plays a huge role in achieving success in our lives. “Nothing worth having comes easy.” I am convinced that what separates the successful beings from the non-successful is perseverance. It’s okay to fail as long as you don’t give up.
If we lie or are deceitful (you can have some ice cream, just don’t tell dad) it pretty much gives them the impression that it’s okay to follow suit. If we are rude to people and don’t exhibit manners, why would they? If we can’t admit when we’re wrong, give up when things get tough or have no compassion for others, you can’t expect them to do any better. We Can’t just explain these core values to our children and expect them to just know right from wrong and be outstanding citizens. Do as I say and not as I do, doesn’t work. We, as parents, need to set a good example for our kids to follow.