Temporary Friends vs Forever Friends

October 21st, 2016 | Breanne Eckleberry 

We all have have had those friends that came into our lives and then left just as quickly. These friends are your “temporary friends.” You know, those friends that you share a common interest with or someone that is going through that same rough patch in their life that you are. These “friends” will, for sure, leave their mark on you, but they’ll be gone before you know it.

When my ex-boyfriend (of 3 1/2 years) broke up I developed all these new friendships. Almost every single night I had someone to go out and get drunk with, go to concerts with, have dinner or simply just hang on the couch. These friends were ALWAYS around and I very rarely felt alone. While it was amazing while it lasted; of course, it ended. Once I started putting my life back together, a lot of these friends were no longer around. These friends were out getting drunk with their next “temporary friend.” Some even started picking up their own pieces before I did so I ended up being the one that vansihed.

Then you have those friends that maybe were dating a guy friend of yours, or maybe you were the one dating their guy friend, and you just hit it off! You immediately form this bond that you feel like can never be broken. You are constantly going on double dates and hitting the bars together on the weekends. Home cooked meals at someones house, parks on the weekends, maybe some over night trips to Atlantic City … until someone breaks up. These “break-ups” happen to more than just the two people in a relationship going separate ways; unfortunately (more times than not) the friendships are also broken. Sometimes you can save them, if it’s worth it, but sometimes it’s best to just let them go. I learned the hard way, when a couple you once did everything with chooses the side of the break-up that’s not yours it’s best to not even try to fix it. These friends that you once thought would be around forever, may not.

All of these “temporary friends” you will have will mean a lot to you and you are probably going to miss them from time to time, but that’s okay. These friends are necessary in your life, just like any relationship that doesn’t work. You learn and grow from these relationships. You end up learning who is really there for you and who is really just spending time with you. You end up realizing your worth and learning to stop giving your all to people that will leave with the seasons. You end up appreciating your FOREVER FRIENDS so much more!

forever [fawr-ev-er, fer-]
adverb

1. without ever ending; eternally:

to last forever.

Forever friends are those friendships that turn into family.

These people may as well be related to you because you share an eternal bond; a bond that cannot and will not be broken. You may not see them all the time and they’re not going to be at your house 5 times a week but that’s the beauty of them; you each will have your own lives and your own families but you KNOW that when you need an ear, or some guidance or advice, when you need someone they’re right there. You may not hear from them for a few weeks or maybe even months, but when you see them you pick right up where you left off. Forever Friends will hold a special place in your heart and you will respect their opinion, appreciate their existence, love their family like your own and drop everything when they need you.

These relationships are so rare and so special.

This person, or these few people, will guide you through life, curse you out when you’re being unreasonable (because only they can get away with that), and love you when you feel like no one else can.You know what the best part about this is? I KNOW that MY forever friends are reading this right now 100% sure that they are one of mine. These friendships are not something you take lightly or for granted. These friendships require work, effort, “how are you” check-ins and “I’m here for you” reminders. These friendships mean everything to you.

So while some people will come and go like the seasons, be sure to cherish the ones that will never leave your side!

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